Would you rather be a disciplinarian or a "cool" parent? So my wifey and I are considering to become parents sometime late next year. Among the questions we've asked ourselves and each other is how we are going to raise our children: Should we take the path where we will use the disciplinarian's stick or should we take the path where we will become friends with them? Of course staying in-between those extremes is the best but finding that balance as we know from our parents' own experience is very difficult. Both our parents were more on the strict than friendly side and both of us did feel what it's like to get whacked by a belt on the butt at some point in our childhood. We turned out okay so it seems that being figures of authority is the "better" route. Times have changed and I've seen parents who are friends with their children -- kind of difficult how they will manage to guide them when the time comes their kids will turn to them for advice from the perspective of authority. But it looks really cool but a little scary. My cousin who's 35 is always playing Xbox with his 10 year old son to a point they've both become addicted and my cousin's wife couldn't stop either of them from playing. Sometimes my cousin would tell his son "Don't listen to mom." My wife will smack me if I did that. For parents and would be parents on the forums -- how are you raising or are planning to raise your children?