unrequited love

superman22

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unrequited love

i have a question for most of you...
when you really love somene.... like you genuinely do... even when they make you mad, angry, and frustrated.. the next thign you know... u love them again.. and want to hold them and talk to them etc....

when you really do love someonew with your heart...

and they used to love you the same way.......

but dont anymore...

but you still do...

how do you deal with that?

how do you deal with the pain knowing you love them so much, and it hurts when you dont talk with them... but it couldnt mean any less to them... or actually.. they prefer it...?
 

My_Immortal6

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I went through the exact same thing a few months ago. I drank alot. I cried. But the best thing to do is to keep busy. Work was really cathartic for me.
 

warding

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superman22 said:
i have a question for most of you...
when you really love somene.... like you genuinely do... even when they make you mad, angry, and frustrated.. the next thign you know... u love them again.. and want to hold them and talk to them etc....

when you really do love someonew with your heart...

and they used to love you the same way.......

but dont anymore...

but you still do...

how do you deal with that?

how do you deal with the pain knowing you love them so much, and it hurts when you dont talk with them... but it couldnt mean any less to them... or actually.. they prefer it...?
The best guard against unchecked passions are a sensible mind and a strong understanding :) This sounds something like Marianne from Sense and Sensibility...a good book to read on the very subject :)
 

maccool

Diabloii.Net Member
I'm amazed at two things:

1) The number of people who ask for relationship advice here. Now I know why the divorce rate in the U.S. is 50% (yes, it's a joke).

2) That superman22 managed to spell unrequited correcty but failed to use capitalization, proper spelling and proper grammar in his post (this is also a joke).

3) Bonus fun amazement. It's amazing that no one seems to actually talk about their relationship problems with the person they are in the relationship with. Maybe your relationship wouldn't suck if you communicated in an open and frank manner with your partner. Being over the age of 18 also helps to a great degree (though not always).

Edit: I'm sleepy and I'm not going to monkey with my grammar anymore :sleep:
 

Smelly

Diabloii.Net Member
I believe that love never stops, when it's really love. You ever see those 82 year olds walking down the street holding hands, having known eachother since they were 14? Yeah. That right there, is love.

You probably only think you're in love, when you're not. It's happened to me before. When you DO fall in love, you'll know what it feels like. It'll pimpslap you upside the dome.
 

Akira

Member
Be warned, if you don't like how peopel in 19th century high society talk reading any book by Jane Austen will be like driving a spike through your skull.

She's written some good books but the manner of speaking can get tiresome.
 

superman22

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haha im amazed at the number of stupid relationship problems there are on this forum as well.... but hey... its somethign everyone goes through... and to each person going through it.. it helps to talk it out....

i just really wish i werent so stupid as to keep on loving. or liking.. wtvr you like... even though she doesn't give a rat's ***...

and it doesnt help that for the past 2 years... we have grown extremely closer...

maybe i should create a group... "g.a.s.a.l.i.s.t"
(girls are stupid and love is stupid too) group.
i hereby declare myself president.

=/

more advice and more wisdom is encouraged and welcome
 

Smelly

Diabloii.Net Member
No matter how much you think you love someone, that doesn't mean they have to love you back. If she's unresponsive, then she doesn't like you. All you're doing is hurting yourself because you might care about her too much. If she doesn't give a rat's *** as you said, then why in the hell are you bothering with her? She doesn't care about you.

You should just stop talking to her. Tell her that it pains you too much, because you care about her too much. And after a few months, if she comes running back, then you can have another try. If not, then just forget about her because she's not worth it. And Dantose is right, age is a huge difference.
 

superman22

Diabloii.Net Member
i dont think it does.
there are some very mature teenagers
and some very immature adults.

you think it matters cause of the bias teenager relationships have.



here is what i project will happen if i say my age:
if i say im a teenager
an onslaught of replies would go
move on. youre too young. youre not in love. forget it.

if i say im an adult
an onslaught of replies woudl go
drink beer
date other women

etc.


so i stand keeping my age a secret :)
 

superman22

Diabloii.Net Member
Smelly said:
No matter how much you think you love someone, that doesn't mean they have to love you back. If she's unresponsive, then she doesn't like you. All you're doing is hurting yourself because you might care about her too much. If she doesn't give a rat's *** as you said, then why in the hell are you bothering with her? She doesn't care about you.

You should just stop talking to her. Tell her that it pains you too much, because you care about her too much. And after a few months, if she comes running back, then you can have another try. If not, then just forget about her because she's not worth it. And Dantose is right, age is a huge difference.

haha smelly
the first thing that came into my mind was..
easier said than done

look guys. i know i should move on. i know im being stupid by holding on. and i want to move on. but its hard... after so much time together... after so many memories... its hard...
and im sure a lot of you know this...
 

Smelly

Diabloii.Net Member
superman22 said:
haha smelly
the first thing that came into my mind was..
easier said than done

look guys. i know i should move on. i know im being stupid by holding on. and i want to move on. but its hard... after so much time together... after so many memories... its hard...
and im sure a lot of you know this...
I don't think you love her. Listen to yourself, you're not even ready to make a sacrifice for her. You say you love her, but I just don't buy it. Easier said than done? If you loved her, you'd take a bullet for her, no questions asked.
 

superman22

Diabloii.Net Member
Smelly said:
I don't think you love her. Listen to yourself, you're not even ready to make a sacrifice for her. You say you love her, but I just don't buy it. Easier said than done? If you loved her, you'd take a bullet for her, no questions asked.
how did you conclude that i wouldnt make a sacrifice for her
hell, i drive to her house in the middle of the night to drop off a coke to make her feel better when she's down (she likes coke a lot, so yeah ^^ )
and i woudl take a bullet for her. no questions asked.
 

Smelly

Diabloii.Net Member
superman22 said:
how did you conclude that i wouldnt make a sacrifice for her
hell, i drive to her house in the middle of the night to drop off a coke to make her feel better when she's down (she likes coke a lot, so yeah ^^ )
and i woudl take a bullet for her. no questions asked.
You said it's hard to let go of her. Do you love her enough to let go of her?
 

SaroDarksbane

Diabloii.Net Site Pal
If you love something, let it go.
If it loves you, it will return.
If it doesn't, hunt it down and kill it.

That's my motto, anyway!
 

ROMVS

Diabloii.Net Member
SaroDarksbane said:
If you love something, let it go.
If it loves you, it will return.
If it doesn't, hunt it down and kill it.

That's my motto, anyway!
Hmmm, interesting quote but there is some truth to it... not the hunting and killing part. Love is like sand, the more you hold it tighter in your hand, the more it will slip through your fingers. If you loosen it too much, it will just be blown away by the wind. Not too tight, not too loose, just right, and it will stay in your palm, secure. I don't believe in playing games but I also don't believe in letting go of some mystery in your life. A little mystery is good for a relationship, sounds like she already knows that your too much in love and that your are dependent on her. What you are doing now is pushing away by pressuring her. Sounds like she doesn't want to deal with it. What I would do (granted I don't have all the facts) is to give her time but let her know you will always be there when she needs you. Then while waiting, consider the fact she may never come back, that way if she does, you will be happily surprised and not hoping against hope. I've been through several relationships myself and I finally found the right one, someone in this thread that love will smack you upside your head, so to speak, that is true for me too. However, true love is when it flows both ways, hmmm, here is a better quote for you:

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
It is not self-seeking, nor easily angered.
It keeps no record of wrongdoing.
It does not delight in evil,
But rejoices in the truth.
It always protects, trusts, hopes, and preserves.
There is nothing love cannot face;
There is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things that last forever:
Faith, hope, and love;
But the greatest of them all is love.
-- 1 Corinthians 1:4-7

Any thing that will lead to you self-destructing does not come from love as love builds and not destroys, it inspires, it hopes, it dreams and unselfish. I never thought of myself as a poet but when you find the love of your life like I have, it seems everyday is beautiful poetry about gorgeous sunsets, cool trade winds and happy thoughts, don't blame me, I live in Hawaii. =)
 
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