Ugh, what would YOU do?

[Raft Boy]

I seriously doubt it's just the girl's idea. I'm sure he had some part of it

We don't know the whole story, but given what Ev_'s told us here:

basically creating drama between my girfriend and I

I wouldn't put it past her to do this so she gets some kind of kick out of watching the whole thing unfold. But I'm not discounting the best friend's part in it, though. It could have been some kind of passing remark he made and she took it to the extreme.

-Rafty

Edit: Duped brings up something I hadn't considered: that your girlfriend is making this stuff up. Maybe she's not getting the attention she thinks she deserves, so she makes up this elaborate story to get you to concentrate on her some more. You say you've known this other girl fairly well for over 3 years. How long have you been dating your girlfriend? I would think if you know someone as long as you've known this other girl, some of this behavior would have presented itself at least once before.

 

[LunarSolaris]

If there's any advice I could give, it would be this:

Never compromise yourself for the sake of anyone. Whether this be in a friendship, or in business, or in a relationship. To allow your feelings and input to be usurped is one of the worst things that any of us can do to ourselves, and in many ways, the most damaging.

If there is any situation making you uncomfortable or feel like less of a person, I cannot encourage you enough to address it now.

I'm also very apt to agree with Rafty that the threesome thing raises a red flag to be considered. I am also troubled that your girlfriend is offering an ultimatum for you - seemingly disregarding your input? (might want clarification there).

 

[MithrandirX]

Get a shovel, a sack of quick lime, and bury that nosy ***** out in the pine barrens.

 

[Ev_]

Oh boy, all the cooling off I've done in the last few hours was just erased. I almost just killed the roommate I don't like (not my best friend). I'm gonna answer all of these replies tomorrow after I've had a night to sleep it off. I'm pretty blinded by rage right now. Thanks for all the replies.

 

[IDupedInMyPants]

If your night was that bad then that seriously sounds like a situation you need to stop one way or another, man.

 

[Ev_]

A night's sleep definitely helped my stress level. Still feel like crap generally, but, ya know how it goes.

Raft Boy: She's got plenty of female friends. It doesn't have anything to do with that. And I'm 20.

Duped: Yeah I'm gonna talk to my best friend, tonight, alone. I really don't think he had anything to do with it, partly because I know he wouldn't do that to me, and partly because I don't think he'd ever have the balls to do that...his girlfriend has him on a very tight leash.

Thanks again everyone. I'll let ya know how things go.

 

[IDupedInMyPants]

We'll keep our fingers crossed.

 

[Starseed]

It seems to me that I'm a lot happier as a person who doesn't want anything to do with a relationship right now than the people who want so much to be in one but haven't found it yet. I'm sure that means something, but I can't be arsed to figure it out.

Most relationships are entered into for the wrong reasons, anyway. Generally, humans are raised on the belief that there is another "half" out there that will make them whole. This very belief really prevents them from ever really being complete and this lack of "completeness" that they feel, makes them hate their own faults and shortcomings, which is really what makes them human.

I always figured I'll meet the right person when I'm least expecting it; like at the scene of a train derailment or I get lost in the wrong part of town after coming home drunk from a club one night.