there's something wrong with me?

[infinity]

there's something wrong with me?

i don't have any goals per se

i would be perfectly fine living a mediocre life, i don't care about money

i don't have any immediate hobbies

i don't know what would make me happy

i don't know what i want to do with my life.


:/
i guess i'm just that boring

 

[HegemonKhan]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

just curious, do u have any values ?

a strong sense of right and wrong ?

 

[infinity]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

with regards to life, yes

 

[BobCox2]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

i don't have any goals per se

i would be perfectly fine living a mediocre life, i don't care about money

i don't have any immediate hobbies

i don't know what would make me happy

i don't know what i want to do with my life.


:/
i guess i'm just that boring

Your so rich, high end, and spoiled you don't even know what you have, if your able to post on this forum with a computer your not mediocre compared to most of the world.

 

[infinity]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

i'm not spoiled

i don't have my own cellphone, i don't have an ipod, i don't have a car

all i have is two computers, both of which are pretty old(they can't play any high end games)

 

[CyberHawk]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

Plant a tree...seriously.

For some reason, and I hate doing it...but when I plant something like a bush, or a tree, I always say afterwards "man, I hope it lives". And I find myself actually worried about something completely off from day to day life. Tho it is a life, and if it dies...its kinda sad. But there alot more to plant in its place.
I esp like to transplant trees that I know will die due to being mowed, or removed soon. Try a baby cedar, they grow everywhere pretty much. Remember to add plenty of water after replanting...the extra water will get the air bubbles out.

 

[BobCox2]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

So if you don't have the above your not spoiled?
Ah Poor Baby. Let's see you also have internet access and a home and If your *****ing about this your not hungry or unheathy and I doubt your self supporting or you would be working harder and too tired to post complaints here
You would also have a clue on improving your life.

 

[infinity]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

i'm not spoiled because i have a house and food to eat. please... that hasn't been a luxury since... probably the 1800's. i'm not denying that there are people in third world countries which don't even have as much, however relative to most modernized areas of the globe, i'm not spoiled.


anyways, what does that have to do with anything? if i was given an opportunity to fly over there and help, i would take it. i have compassion for life, and i wouldn't hesitate to "spread the wealth" or just help those in need.

i also appreciate what i have. sure, i take it for granted now. That's because I haven't experienced how bad it can get. Anyway, I don't see the relevance.


i thought you were insuating that i was spoiled by today's standards. that's why i brought up the gadgets.

 

[stillman]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

Jeeze BobCox...why are you so mad at this guy? He is seeking help from us. We know almost nothing about him. He could be like me: not making a whole lot of money atm and therefore internet access is one of those things that is really cutting into his buget so he must sacrifice other things to keep it. Or, what if he feels like he's in a rut, living with his parents and feeling traped there due to very few job opportunities in his town?

Anyway, infinity, I'm in the helping field and I have my Human Services certificate (among other accomplishments I won't mention here). Why don't you tell us how old you are and maybe some issues that may be bothering you? If you are young enough, it could simply be a matter of not having had the time to explore your options and realize you passion. When I was in high school, I was quite uncertain of what I would want out of life.

Where I live, University costs a fortune and you pretty much cannot go and get competitive grades unless you have 100 grand simply given to you. Just knowing these barriers exist can be a real set back, so it's not like he can just go out and get what he wants in life.

I would say his problem is that he is comparing himself to others, perhaps those from wealthier families who appear to have it made. Not caring about money isn't really a bad thing; the problem is he is likely surrounded by girls in his everyday life who care only about money, and this may be filling him with a sense of dread and helplessness. He considers himself 'boring' pehaps because, again, he is comparing his own circumstances with those who may be more successful.

Just realize that people with any real money in this world tend to be 50 years old before they really get ahead. Also, wealthier kids live in a world of illusion where they are unaware that they are targets of gold diggers and others who will abuse them for personal gain. Being 'mediocre' has it's up sides.

If you are in high school, keep in mind that nothing in high school matters at all. Relationships in high school almost always fail, your high school grades don't mean anything, and you university grades and your future career are all that really matter. Don't place so much value on what is happening now, because much of it doesn't matter anyway. Be patient and things will fall into place.

 

[infinity]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

Jeeze BobCox...why are you so mad at this guy? He is seeking help from us. We know almost nothing about him. He could be like me: not making a whole lot of money atm and therefore internet access is one of those things that is really cutting into his buget so he must sacrifice other things to keep it. Or, what if he feels like he's in a rut, living with his parents and feeling traped there due to very few job opportunities in his town?

Anyway, infinity, I'm in the helping field and I have my Human Services certificate (among other accomplishments I won't mention here). Why don't you tell us how old you are and maybe some issues that may be bothering you? If you are young enough, it could simply be a matter of not having had the time to explore your options and realize you passion. When I was in high school, I was quite uncertain of what I would want out of life.

Where I live, University costs a fortune and you pretty much cannot go and get competitive grades unless you have 100 grand simply given to you. Just knowing these barriers exist can be a real set back, so it's not like he can just go out and get what he wants in life.

I would say his problem is that he is comparing himself to others, perhaps those from wealthier families who appear to have it made. Not caring about money isn't really a bad thing; the problem is he is likely surrounded by girls in his everyday life who care only about money, and this may be filling him with a sense of dread and helplessness. He considers himself 'boring' pehaps because, again, he is comparing his own circumstances with those who may be more successful.

Just realize that people with any real money in this world tend to be 50 years old before they really get ahead. Also, wealthier kids live in a world of illusion where they are unaware that they are targets of gold diggers and others who will abuse them for personal gain. Being 'mediocre' has it's up sides.

If you are in high school, keep in mind that nothing in high school matters at all. Relationships in high school almost always fail, your high school grades don't mean anything, and you university grades and your future career are all that really matter. Don't place so much value on what is happening now, because much of it doesn't matter anyway. Be patient and things will fall into place.

i'm a high school senior

what's been bothering me you ask? i don't have any MAJOR problems at the moment, but lately i've just been realizing how little i've taken advantage of school and how uncapable i am to changing. I do have above average grades, but in a high school with over 100 seniors that have a +4.0, it means nothing. Everytime i do bad on a test, i always promise myself that i'd try harder, but it never actually happens. That's probably why i won't get into any decent university(my SAT is trash).

.. and yeah, i have been comparing myself to others, particularly this sophomore at my school who's already taking third year calculus(he lives up to such high standards). I've been comparing my standard to the rest of the world too, and I'm wondering if I'll ever get a decent education. It's just a little intimidating how much below par american schools are, and the fact that i'm not as perfect as that sophomore i mentioned.

Also, I just don't know who i'm supposed to be. My parents have high expectations of me, but we never talk. To be honest, most of my family doesn't really talk. I see my dad for a total of a few days out of the year. I don't know whether i should strive to live a comfortable life(i'm comfortable with very little), or whether I should be more like my father who's always working. It feels like, unless somebody tells me what I should be doing, I wouldn't naturally know.

i just don't know..

 

[Arkardo]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

You remind me a bit of myself. Let me tell you about myself.

I'm 'late' with a lot of things: I only started to care about the way I looked around 15 years of age, only started to go out a little at 16 (though that was only for a short time, as I didn't enjoy the places I went to), only found my 'main' hobby when I was 16 (sports: defense sports with fitness, narrowed it down to just fitness around 21-22). I only really found out what music I liked around... 18 or something, and I narrowed it down in the next years. Still am. When I was 19 and finished highschool, I still didn't have a clue what I wanted. I started Bioinformatics, because that was the only thing that really caught my interest. There were a lot of things that did interest me, but I couldn't image that they would keep my interest enough for a job. You see, I have a broad interest in things. I like to know a little about a lot. Bioinformatics combines two different subjects that I happened to like.
Now I'm 24 and I've only just some months back (23 at that time) somewhat found out what I really want to do for work; something with visual programming and human anatomy.

The point I'm trying to make is, you could either or both be 'slow' to find out what you really like in life, or have a broad interest in a lot, but nothing in particular. Which is not bad. It's just a problem to find some kind of study/work that fits you.

You could also have a low drive in general. Do you happen to have a spouse, or actively looking for one? I myself don't. I just can't find the time and/or energy to go out... (also, I'm not particularly shy, but I can't get myself to start a conversation with a girl, 'cause I either don't know what to say or I'm afraid that I won't be able to keep the conversation going). That's some sort of lack of drive that I have.

EDIT: I've forgotting to include the most important thing: (I know this all will sound cliché, but I really don't give a damn, because it's true) being able to appreciate the small things in life!
I wasted so much time worrying about what others think of me, like thinking that being seen as a 'strong' person is important. For the last 1,5, 2 years I know that being able to not care about what others think (but, of course, NOT in the sense of not taking care of yourself regarding hygiene, physical exercise, etc.), and to simply enjoy!
Laughing about the smallest things, especially with your friends, is so joyful. I really considered myself happy when I learned that. I can crack up just from reliving a memory of something small that happened that made me and my friends laugh out loud.
Memories of such times are real treasures. I really mean it.

[/semi-emo mode ]

 

[stillman]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

^ Oh, don't worry, she'll have much to say. The first question will be "what do you do for a living?" By my experience, if your answer is anything short of doctor/manager/business owner then her next line will be "Well, I have to go..."

I know I sound very negative, but I find this is really the case. They only seem to care primarily about how much cash you have. You could have a lotto ticket for 5 million dollars right in your hand, but that is not enough; you need to have the cash NOW, this very second. Let's say your'e a med student and you have a very wealthy future ahead of you. Too bad...you have to be a doctor NOW.

But I'll get back to helping infinity later on because I have to get ready for work. For now, I will just say that I too took my time figguring out what I wanted. It's kind of a good thing because there should really be a gap of time from when you leave highschool and go to university. People who jump right into university right after high school, I've noticed, make HUGE mistakes. They bring their skateboards to class with them. They, or their family, are shelling out tens of thousands of dollars so they can skateboard during these intense programs where if you take a single hour off to entertain yourself, your grades go down.

If you wait until you're out on your own for a bit, you learn to take the program more seriously and do whatever it takes to get the competitive grades. No partying. No talking to your friends. No hobbies. In fact, say good bye to your friends, or your grades will go down. These things take some time to learn.

 

[Tanooki]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

I learned the hard way you can't coast through college the same way you can coast through high school. I -barely- graduated after switching majors just before my senior year and pulling my GPA up to passing.

Oh, and never start skipping classes. After the first few, it gets WAY too easy. It's easy to forget you're shelling out cash for each class, and to miss any is like throwing money away.

 

[phool]

Re: there's something wrong with me?

Sounds like early acheiver syndrome. Isn't anything you can really do about it afaik. If you do get through education and things should improve.