So I asked this girl...

Module88

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So I asked this girl...

out... twice. And crashed and burned twice. She's one of those people who don't want to get married, want to stay single, etc etc. How the hell do I convince her to go to dinner with me? Honestly, it's a five dollar dinner at the local fast food restaurant. She seems to enjoy my sense of humor, but for some reason, she won't even spend a night with me. Suggestions? What could be going on in her head?
 

Module88

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Mecal said:
she's really a man.

nah, but, did she give any excuse? or just say "no thanks"?
:lol: You wish. The first time, it was "I have to be in the mood for fast food," which, as you can probably tell, is bull****. The second time, she just said no. No real reason. :Shrug: Women are so complicated.
 

Steve_Kow

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I think she's being pretty straight forward, not complicated at all. She isn't interested in dating you.

It sucks, but as a friend of mine is fond of saying "There are other mothers with beautiful daughters."
 

Steel_Avatar

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What's confusing is why you won't just give up and move on. If she's not interested, she's not interested, dude. Trying twice is okay. Keep trying and it's just kinda sad :(
 
Module88 said:
She seems to enjoy my sense of humor, but for some reason, she won't even spend a night with me.
That's your problem right there. Comedy isn't a relationship builder, it's an ice-breaker. You need to work on showcasing some other facets of your personality and building some common ground, even if you have to make either or both up. Unless you're hideous or something, in which case you're screwed, but I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt.
 

Module88

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Steel_Avatar said:
What's confusing is why you won't just give up and move on. If she's not interested, she's not interested, dude. Trying twice is okay. Keep trying and it's just kinda sad :(
One dinner. At a fast food restaurant. All I'm asking for is an OPPORTUNITY. We've known each other for years, but she won't even give me that? Come on. As for your statement Kow, I'm not in it for the sex.
 

Ranger14

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Module88 said:
One dinner. At a fast food restaurant. All I'm asking for is an OPPORTUNITY. We've known each other for years, but she won't even give me that? Come on. As for your statement Kow, I'm not in it for the sex.
I agree with Steel. Especially now I know you have been friends for years. Take a hint and move on. Not to sound cliche', but "what part of no don't you understand? Keep it up and you will end up losing her as a friend also.

...and asking her for dinner at a fast food restaurant as a first date might not be the best idea.
 

Module88

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What? I didn't say we were friends, I said we knew each other. Hey, it's not like I'm going to ask her to the movies. You don't get to know the person- all you do is sit there. I'd prefer a nice, relaxed dinner, followed by a moonlight walk. I'll ask once more I think. Suggestions? This time I'm going to spill it all and just ask her I want one chance to prove myself, instead of just asking her to dinner. This is ridiculous. I want the chance, nothing more.
 

Ev_

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Regardless of your intentions on the first "date," she knows that you're interested in her. She's obviously not interested in you. Don't ask her again, for your sake. Taking her out once is not going to win her over. You have a better chance doing that by just hanging out the way you normally do.
 

Ranger14

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My apologies. If she has known you for years and has turned you down twice, why would you want to go out with someone who isn't that interested anyway? I would prefer asking out women that I, at least, knew were interested in me. Women tend to get funny if guys don't get the hint, so I would exercise some caution.

I would never take a woman to a movie on the first date. You are right there. I definitely wouldn't take them to McDonalds or Burger King though.
I don't know how old you are, so that may help in giving you advice.

Edit: I would definitely agree with Ev's advice.
 

Module88

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Ev_ said:
You have a better chance doing that by just hanging out the way you normally do.
We never talk to each other. :lol:

Ranger said:
I definitely wouldn't take them to McDonalds or Burger King though.
Oh HELL no. More like a small Chinese restuarant. It's off by some trees and a small river, so I figured it'd be a good place to take a walk. 17. Also, the difficulty is not that she's not interested in me (the few moments we do chat, she always laughs and seems to have a good time), but it's she not interested in anyone. Perhaps she fears getting hurt? I don't know.
 

TopHatCat64

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Module88 said:
We never talk to each other.
Er, why would she interested in you then if you never talk?

Module88 said:
(the few moments we do chat, she always laughs and seems to have a good time), but it's she not interested in anyone. Perhaps she fears getting hurt? I don't know.
It's quite possible she doesn't want to get into a relationship right now.

As other have said, if you've asked her twice already and and been refused twice it's probably best not to push your luck.
 

Module88

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TopHatCat64 said:
Er, why would she interested in you then if you never talk?
When we do talk, she seems to enjoy the conversation, as mentioned.

It's quite possible she doesn't want to get into a relationship right now.

As other have said, if you've asked her twice already and and been refused twice it's probably best not to push your luck.
Or ever, for that matter. She doesn't plan on getting married, so she says. But hey, look, I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I'm going to try one more time regardless of what any of you say. I would appreciate, however, any tips on going about this. For instance, my other friend told me to wear a cup. Good advice. Anyone else?
 
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