Should people be confident in their own bodies regardless of what shape they're in?

[zodiac66]

From a large (due to preggy) size, I can say that I would never think of wearing some of the stuff I see people wear. I wouldn't wear spandex or a belly revealing shirt..not in a million years. If they have a positive self esteem, thats great. But no matter what your esteem is, one should know if you look like a clown or not.

I saw this lady the other day with a belly shirt on..she had a dunlop (her belly done lopped) over her pants. I wouldn't wear that..and I wear some wierd things :surprise: .

 

[DrunkPotHead]

Her confidence is misplaces, and although it might sicken me, i would supprot her right to show it off.

If not, maybe we should ban ugly people from showing their face?

 

[Alex_Str]

Yeah, that's just wrong.

Have a nice body? Wear all the belly shirts, short shorts, etc that you want to. Look like Rosie O'Donnel (sp)? Please, just don't.

If not, maybe we should ban ugly people from showing their face?

You don't have a choice in this department, you have to show your face. But you do have a choice in the clothing department.

 

[dodomac]

You cannot let your confidence overcome your common sense, especially in cases where your confidence is particularly unfounded (like in the case described way above). Although many people say that you shouldn't care what other people think (idealists), there are situations where you have to be aware of how you are seen by other people.

I personally believe that unquestionably fat people should not be garbed in any form of tight clothing whatsoever, as it draws unwanted attention and/or ridicule towards themselves and may be offensive towards other people.

If you are fat and content with it, that is both fine and respectable. However, you have to be aware of the fact that while being obese in America may be normal, it is classified as a medical condition and is not considered to be attractive. In order to look attractive in trendy clothes, you have to fit the "image" that comes with them (maybe not so much the image as the body shape). It's not impossible to lose weight, and if you want to fit into tight clothes that is something that you have to do.

Bottom line: Want to wear trendy/tight clothes? Lose the weight.

Of course, this is not a demand or a set rule, it is just my opinion.

 

[Ezakimak]

Call me a close minded idiot,......

Your a closed minded idiot. :flip:

I would have to agree with most of the people here. People with "rolls" should not be showing them off. If your comfortable with your wieght fine, it doesn't mean that other people that are looking at you are comfortable with it.

Are you sure the girl was really wearing a short shirt? or was she just that overwieght that she couldn't get any shirts to fit right :cheesy:

 

[LunarSolaris]

I'll never "look" like a GQ model... does that mean I have no right to wear trendy clothes? I guess I don't buy into the "image" thing.

I agree that people whom are overweight should excercise common decency with regards to their dress, but I'd much rather see an overweight woman showing a little bit of midriff and have great self esteem than to see yet another person hating who they are because of weight and body image.

Nothing is forcing me to look at her.

 

[Kore]

I'll never "look" like a GQ model... does that mean I have no right to wear trendy clothes? I guess I don't buy into the "image" thing.

You don't have to look like a model, or even if you're huge you don't have to wear a moo moo everywhere, you can get trendy clothing that leaves a lot to the imagination. Just cover up unsightly fat because you should consider it a bad thing. I think both showing the midriff and just breaking down because of it and hating themselves are both equally bad. In both cases you're just giving up. Shame can be a good thing so long as you try and fix what's wrong with you rather than just wallowing in self pity.

More importantly no one is talking about forcing you to dress a certain way. We're talking about things that we would only enforce upon ourselves.

 

[Stevinator]

well first...you need to get off your high horse and leave the fat chic alone. she prolly catches enough flak as it is. her weight is her problem, not yours. if she wants to be unhealthy and look terrible fine...don't hit on her...

as for her...it may be her deal, but there's no exuse for being overweight. it's reallly a matter of self-control and personal responsibility.


as many of you have mentioned...no one wants to be witha "big" person and no one wants to be with a stick. but there's no perfect shape for a women...it's a lot more about just being active and confident and athletic, and wearing something that shows off your curves. that's what attracts men. those triple d cup boobies are sure to get you a little oogling if you wear the right shirt...but that's about all it'll get you. great now you're unattractive and an object.

I know there aren't many young women out there, but women need to stop worrying so much about the size of their butts and spend more time just being active and productive. if you live right and eat right you'll end up looking fine...guys really want someone interesting enough to talk to. I've met too many attractive idiot women in the past few months. they all look great but they conversate worse than your average doorknob. I don't mind hot women walking around...but I think we've set women up to some standard that cannot be attained so they dont' try...they decided they're happy with however they end up even if they do everything wrong. they're told from when they're very young that no matter what they do it's okay...they're special.

i hate that.

hey, it all came back to that entitlemnt mentality again...it's teh scrounge of every problem in society.

 

[Kore]

well first...you need to get off your high horse and leave the fat chic alone. she prolly catches enough flak as it is. her weight is her problem, not yours. if she wants to be unhealthy and look terrible fine...don't hit on her...

Who's giving her flak? I said it I don't like to see people give up on themselves.

they're told from when they're very young that no matter what they do it's okay...they're special.

i hate that.

*raises glass in agreement*

 

[Anakha1]

I'll never "look" like a GQ model... does that mean I have no right to wear trendy clothes? I guess I don't buy into the "image" thing.

I agree that people whom are overweight should excercise common decency with regards to their dress, but I'd much rather see an overweight woman showing a little bit of midriff and have great self esteem than to see yet another person hating who they are because of weight and body image.

Nothing is forcing me to look at her.

Lunar, the whole idea of fashion is to excentuate your good points and draw attention away from your bad points. No one is perfect, but wearing something that would be fashionable and look great on another person but which shoves your worst qualities in other people's faces is not the way to look 'trendy', if there is such a thing.

Steve: I'm not on a high horse at all. But I do feel sorry for her. Her weight is my problem when I see things like that and become revolted by it. And don't say "don't look" because everyone has roving eyes. You can't help see it. I'm all for not being ashamed of one's body, but I think the whole accepting of yourself at any weight is going too far.

 

[corndog420]

To answer the exact question posed in the thread title: yes, I think that people should be confident in their bodies regardless of what shape they're in. Confidence is very attractive. I want to clarify that I'm not talking about *cockiness* here, but self-confidence. Some people have a very difficult time with weight management, whenther they be "too thin" or "too big," and added stress put on by one's self never helps.

Having said that, I do think that people should try hard to maintain a healthy weight/activity level/food intake, etc. I'm not talking about psycho aerobic schedules and counting every single carb and calorie, but moderation can be a very good thing.

More personally speaking, I have friends that only date bigger girls. I like very athletic/skinny girls. One of my buddies that likes big women is very athletic and all, but he just likes "rounder" girls. I suppose it's all just personal preference, so just be confident in yourself. Believe that your personality can outshine potential "flaws" you might have in other areas, but also be aware that many people don't consider being "big" or "skinny" a flaw.

Unless you have no personality at all--then you should diet, work out, and get a boob job .

I use vodka instead of food... :drink:

 

[Stevinator]

To answer the exact question posed in the thread title: yes, I think that people should be confident in their bodies regardless of what shape they're in. Confidence is very attractive. I want to clarify that I'm not talking about *cockiness* here, but self-confidence. Some people have a very difficult time with weight management, whenther they be "too thin" or "too big," and added stress put on by one's self never helps.

Having said that, I do think that people should try hard to maintain a healthy weight/activity level/food intake, etc. I'm not talking about psycho aerobic schedules and counting every single carb and calorie, but moderation can be a very good thing.

More personally speaking, I have friends that only date bigger girls. I like very athletic/skinny girls. One of my buddies that likes big women is very athletic and all, but he just likes "rounder" girls. I suppose it's all just personal preference, so just be confident in yourself. Believe that your personality can outshine potential "flaws" you might have in other areas, but also be aware that many people don't consider being "big" or "skinny" a flaw.

Unless you have no personality at all--then you should diet, work out, and get a boob job .

I use vodka instead of food... :drink:

there's round and there's fat. some guys like the voluptuous women and some like the althletic types. some just like them skinny...but no one is attracted to someone whos grossly overweight...i know a guy or two that like girls that are slightly chunky...it's not my thing...but I can see why they might like them...often they're just naturally happy people who enjoy life...so they don't count calories and that attitude is refreshing. it would certainly be better than a thin girl that is about as exciting and interesting as dryer lint.

 

[Anakha1]

People who are in great shape don't necessarily lack personality. I have oodles of personality :surprise: and I'm in fantastic shape.