post-college dating/meeting new people in the real world i

[Stevinator]

post-college dating/meeting new people in the real world

all this thinkinig about women has me wondering if anyone here ahas any good suggestions where I can meet people after I'm out of school...I wouldn't mind finding some drinking buddies, but I'm really looking for a significant other type.

I never had a problem meeting women in school. they were everywhere. they were all aged appropriately and I had good excuses to strike up conversations and even to convince them to come to my apartment (go-go group projects!)

now however, it's harder to meet women...i still catch them here and there...but I have not found a good hanging out place. and I have little time for hanging out anyway. so i need to make the most of that time that I do have.


where do women go? where are they hiding...i see hotties in traffic often, but unless they write down my number (i have car signs) I'll never see them again. I would just follow them and see where they are going...but that would be creepy. besides if I discovered their lair they might be upset and that would defeat the whole purpose of the endeavor.

so, anyone have any ideas on how to be in the right places and increasemy chancesof meeting people? summer is coming so I hope some women decide to use those bike paths across the street from me. other than that and bars i haven't the foggiest where people go.

 

[Anakha1]

I'm in the exact same situation... right out of school. The difference is that I'm not interested in finding a significant other.

So... uh... no, I don't know where to meet interesting women. Online maybe?

Carry on... :wave:

 

[DurfBarian]

Coffee shops? Bookstores? Fitness clubs? Crack houses? The place you go to meet people will be decided in large part by the kind of people you want to meet.

 

[Painman]

Gas stations. The produce section of the supermarket. Anyplace where you can employ some not-so-subtle phallic symbolism.

 

[LunarSolaris]

Try some dating sites... while some of them suck, some actually can be a good way to meet someone else. They're starting to become much more mainstream, and because more people are doing them nowadays (i.e. busy professionals that don't have time to go to the local bar), it's at least one method.

 

[Anakha1]

I've been on some online dating sites. I actually met my last girlfriend on one and we dated for six months. I've met a lot of great girls on them, even though most of them just turned into a one night stand or a single date. Online sites don't have the stigma attached to them that they once did. There are a lot of really attractive and intelligent girls on them.

 

[LunarSolaris]

I agree Anakha. In fact, I can clearly remember when dating online was a complete joke. But... it's starting to become a much more acceptable alternative to the "club" scene or the "bar" scene - and there are some pretty intelligent and attractive men and women on them. Still a fair share of jackasses... but you'll find that anywhere.

 

[Stevinator]

I had a feeling y'all would say that...online dating does seem to becomemore and more popular...but I dunno...it still has a stigma to me. idon't like to think that i need eharmony, I'd rather think I did it myself... I'll give it some more thought though...I mean can all these forum members be wrong? even if one of them is anakankersore?

speaking of my fav canadian...why not looking for someone? I've always been out looking for that one person...i mean sometimes i'm looking harder than other times...but you're never going to find her ifyou don't getout and meet people. you don't really have to "date" just be out and about and have some fun. i'm not looking to get married by next wed. i'm looking for a few peeps i can turn to on weekends to just go out with because my college friends are getting harder and harder to get ahold of. we're spreading out more and more all the time.

Grocery store...hmm maybe i need to stop shopping at weird times....go when it's busy....

I've heard that there are apartment complexes designed to meet people.

I guess what i really need is a nice little hobby that is unisex (not to manly that chics avoid it and not too wimpy that I'd look ***). I'm going to go sleep oin it...maybe we can comeup with something good if we put our heads together...

 

[jimmyboy]

Try going back the university library and act like you're a grad student. Always worked for me.

 

[Anakha1]

I had a feeling y'all would say that...online dating does seem to becomemore and more popular...but I dunno...it still has a stigma to me. idon't like to think that i need eharmony, I'd rather think I did it myself... I'll give it some more thought though...I mean can all these forum members be wrong? even if one of them is anakankersore?

speaking of my fav canadian...why not looking for someone? I've always been out looking for that one person...i mean sometimes i'm looking harder than other times...but you're never going to find her ifyou don't getout and meet people. you don't really have to "date" just be out and about and have some fun. i'm not looking to get married by next wed. i'm looking for a few peeps i can turn to on weekends to just go out with because my college friends are getting harder and harder to get ahold of. we're spreading out more and more all the time.

You should give it a chance. Most of the sites you can visit allow you to search in your specific area. You can meet someone online and then take it into real life as and when you see fit. Plus there's no awkward rejecting or being rejected as there is at places like bars. You know that everyone there is looking for more or less the same thing you are and you can peruse the products at your convenience.

As for your second question... I spent most of my life looking for that special someone and I just got tired of caring. I still see women pretty frequently, but never anything serious. I've got too much else on my plate with work and things like that to put too much effort into it. When my life settles down in a couple years I'll get back into the game. Right now I'm also having too much fun as a bachelor. So many women... so little time... :drool: For now I'm quite happy unattached and free.

 

[LunarSolaris]

There's no problem with a wide variety of sources for meeting people. I just think that as technology has advanced, and old "meat markets" have dried up... that it leaves fewer places to meet someone.

If you are a church-goer, you can find someone I suppose. Or... hobby groups as you suggested. However, there are probably a good dozen online dating sites that are very reputable and have a good person base to them - and As Ahanak said, they are much more advanced nowadays in helping to find a match.

I've had success and miserable failure with both meeting people the old-fashioned way and in the online method. No one method seems to have worked best for me - but I will vouch that it's MUCH easier to "hook up" (non sexually you perverts) online than it is the traditional way based on wider availability.

 

[Anakha1]

it's MUCH easier to "hook up" (non sexually you perverts)

Does not compute. :cheesy: :innocent: