As some of you may know I am engaged and have been for nearly 1 1/2 years. I met her in college and we never thought about dating until one day we realized that we were.
I never dated in high school I found it really not to be worth it. I watched people my entire life and watched as couples fought and broke up and played with each others emotions and really knocked the **** out of each other physically. But the funny thing I noticed was that females came to me for advise on how to handle their relationships. I probably could have dated just about any girl I set my mind to but made a conscience decission to deeply consider someone before persuing them. What I found was that youth seem to move way to fast into relationships and it gets them hurt in the end. Girls and Guys both get cheated on, emotionally/physically abused, *****(apprantly censors don't like the word for "forced inter course"), and pregnant (girls only of course). But all these problems tend to stem from one truth. Time is the most precious object one can control. If you love someone or something you give them/it your time.
The bottom line is that you can't force anyone to do anything. You can't force them to love you, hate you, respect you, or dispise you. The only thing you can do is control yourself. When some one says "lets just be friends" its like saying I dont want to be mean but I am not interested in you. Parents do the same thing with their children ever heard "your puppy went to live on a farm" by saying it in a nice way they assume that they can protect others from being hurt. But the truth of the matter is only the person being spoken to can decide if they are to be hurt or not. Physically people can hurt anyone emotionally people can only truely be hurt by themselves. :rant:
Sorry for my rant
