OT: Days of our Lives aka the Beacon's Billboard

[nichols]

@ $6 - I had/have the same problem as you. There's a girl that in what I see, is perfect. She's a great athlete, is very nice to everyone, has a great sense of humor, and is quite attractive. This spring in track, I started to fall for her I guess you could say. I really didn't want to say anything though, because we have been best friends for about the past 3 years, and I still have a year of high school with her. She also is in all the same sports as me, so I didn't want to amke things too akward, so I thought I'd wait. Soon I satrted realizing that she had a huge crush on one of the "jocks" (well I guess I'm a "jock" too but he's one of the football guys). This "jock" is very cocky, somewhat conceded, and not very nice to most people. I couldn't believe that she was fallign for him, but as it turns out, he has a girlfriend already. They still flirted non-stop, but it made me feel better that they weren't actually a couple. I think after the cross country season this year I may ask her out. Any suggestions from all you pro lovers out here???

Alex

 

[Arreat_mercenary]

I'm certainly not a pro-lover, but I can give my .02 cents:

I couldn't believe that she was fallign for him, but as it turns out, he has a girlfriend already. They still flirted non-stop, but it made me feel better that they weren't actually a couple.

Alex

You said she was perfect for you, right? Well, "perfect women" do not flirt with men that they know they have a girlfriend. It can only lead to an eventual relationship, which can be filled with betrayal and the inevitable split-up.

You want an advice? I wouldn't go for it. If she is already flirting with someone, is a bad sign, but doing it with someone that already has a girlfriend is a terrible one, it can means she really really really has a crush on him and probably, will not look on someone else or will do it only to give jealousy to the one she wants to be with.

I do know the feeling though, and it is hard to resign to the girl you want to be with. If you feel you have a slight chance, go for it, but if you know the battle is lost since the beginning, do not lose a great friend.

 

[nichols]

I'm certainly not a pro-lover, but I can give my .02 cents:



You said she was perfect for you, right? Well, "perfect women" do not flirt with men that they know they have a girlfriend. It can only lead to an eventual relationship, which can be filled with betrayal and the inevitable split-up.

You want an advice? I wouldn't go for it. If she is already flirting with someone, is a bad sign, but doing it with someone that already has a girlfriend is a terrible one, it can means she really really really has a crush on him and probably, will not look on someone else or will do it only to give jealousy to the one she wants to be with.

I do know the feeling though, and it is hard to resign to the girl you want to be with. If you feel you have a slight chance, go for it, but if you know the battle is lost since the beginning, do not lose a great friend.

Ok that came out wrong. She's not really trying to go out with him, but I think she may be slightly interested. I've heard from her that she doesn't want to go out with him, but I'm wondering what kind of chances I'll have then.

 

[Ana]

Well, "perfect women" do not flirt with men that they know they have a girlfriend. It can only lead to an eventual relationship, which can be filled with betrayal and the inevitable split-up.

Errr... excuse me AM? Let's not forget about the guy here as well! It's so much easier to blame the one that's not in that relationship. He has his own responsibility in this. If he flirts with her, she might think he's available... so don't put the blame on her solely, k? If he feels the urge to flirt, maybe there's something wrong with that relationship already :wink3: .

 

[water_moon]

Not to mention that's there's flirting and then there's flirting.
Type one is a running joke, a gag, not at all serious. Type two is a deserate move to be noticed.

And I'm with ana, if the guy is flirting back, he's the one with issues, not her.

As for the jock thing I guess I'll never understand that. And to that end I will argue with $6 that if she's turning down some hotshot basketball player that doesn't mean that she'd turn down a friend who was something more, football line man or total dork. Thoguh I do think her mentioning then to you that she tuned him down b/c she's "not ready for a relationship" was a nice way of trying to tell you not to go there, at least not yet.

 

[Arreat_mercenary]

I just tried to bring a point a point up, but seems I completely screwed up.

Ok, well, it's more complicated than I thought then nichols. And Ana, I dindn't tried to blame everything on her, although it seems like I did, for that, I'm sorry.

I just talked of what I learned from my own experiences, in which, women tend to flirt even with the guy has already a girlfriend, and it's nothing good. But reading the correct situation nichols, I think it's normal that she may have a crush on someone else, if, after all the time you have spent with her, you haven't asked her out. She may think you don't have interest in her or, that you are just friends.

 

[erics]

So how do you define the difference between flirting and being friendly?

Type one is a running joke...

You should see me when I run

 

[Arreat_mercenary]

* completely off-thread *

See the avatars from water_moon, then me, then erics, then me again: cat, big cat, weird cat and big cat again....................... I'm changing my 'tar and no W_M I'm not taking it back

 

[water_moon]

If she plays with her hair and keeps showing the inside of her wrists, she's intrested in you.

Which is actully a behavior witnessed and confirmed by sociologists.

Biologically, the pupils dialate and pluse increases on both sexes when in a room with a person whom they are romanticaly intrested in.

 

[Ana]

If she plays with her hair and keeps showing the inside of her wrists, she's intrested in you.

Biologically, the pupils dialate and pluse increases on both sexes when in a room with a person whom they are romanticaly intrested in.

Oh! I should pay a lot more attention then! :grin:

 

[Jude]

Just because someone shows an interest doesn't mean they are going to do anything about it. Some people are faithful to their partners but still can't help looking a bit.

What I hate is when someone is in a relationship but acts like they are single, and then whoever gets involved with them finds out later that they already have a partner. IMHO, that is unforgiveable. It hurts both the partner and the person who thought s/he was getting involved with an unattached person.

Jude

 

[Sidhe]

All W_M's things on flirtatious behaviour

Well, now i know why people think i flirt a lot :blush:
I don't though... well, maybe i do, but i'm not aware of it, unless i'm intentionally trying to get someone's attention...

Edit:
I should add that this goes for quite some girls. So even if some behaviour looks flirtatious, it doesn't have to be.

 

[muzzz]

Well, now i know why people think i flirt a lot :blush:
I don't though... well, maybe i do, but i'm not aware of it, unless i'm intentionally trying to get someone's attention...

Edit:
I should add that this goes for quite some girls. So even if some behaviour looks flirtatious, it doesn't have to be.

Someone once told me she's always flirtatious when making contact with new people. Not because she wants to flirt, but because it was the only way she really knows to make approach someone.

 

[Deaddave]

i know i this girl who seems like shes flirting all the time but its just the way she is, she just likes being the center of attention and flirtings her way of making sure she is

 

[corax]

tell her to just drop her pants and spin in circles on the floor and make wooping noises.


Apparently im a flirt. well used to be. back when i went outside.

 

[water_moon]

aww, poor corax. See, ana, this is what I meant about becoeming so addicted to WoW that you forgot what that big bright ball outside was for. Corax is just too far gone for an intervention though, and luckly sidhe found a nice SO to drag her out. Now if only kavie would drag cor out more....

 

[Ana]

Hey, I'm out!

 

[Arreat_mercenary]

It seems that now this has become a way to detect techniques for flirting.

Well, I'm quite happy with the weekend I had with my girlfriend, but I'm not seeing her again until, probably the 28th :cry:

In the meantime? Well, I don't know, probably finish for the fourth time Ogre Battle, do some MF runs, work A LOT, save money and try to hold my ground

 

[Deaddave]

It seems that now this has become a way to detect techniques for flirting.

Well, I'm quite happy with the weekend I had with my girlfriend, but I'm not seeing her again until, probably the 28th :cry:

i second that vote for a topic change.

and that is realy harsh, i dont cant see how u manage it

 

[Arreat_mercenary]

Well, sometimes I don't manage it. Especially when I'm completely alone, normally, in the weekends, I'm all alone.

Because of my work, I'm far away from home, so I have no family, no friends here. And in the weekends almost all my co-workers leave, and it's just me and my thoughts of my girlfriend.......... yuck, two hard weeks are about to come, any ideas of what to do? Maybe I can aim for world peace :scratch: