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Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by ZeppelinAngel, Mar 30, 2004.

  1. ZeppelinAngel

    ZeppelinAngel IncGamers Member

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    oh the drama..

    lemme explain first:

    this weekend.. my mom went to the beach (friday-monday), she left me in charge of my 17 year old sister (i'm 19). anyway.. my mother specifically said that she was not allowed to go to franklin, which is a town near here, where a lot of her friends live. friday after my mom left, my sister and two of her other friends begged me to let them go, i told michelle (my sister), that she knew she was not allowed to go, but she went anyway. she left at about 3 in the afternoon then was back by about 6. so that's wrong thing #1. second thing she did wrong, was bring one of her friends from franklin (that my mom doesn't like her being around) back to the house. that's wrong thing #2. we went out to eat, then returned home around 8, waiting for my mother to call from the beach. by now there are 5 of us, including allie, stephanie, and kayla (the girl from franklin), and they're all michelle's friends.after she called, my sister left AGAIN to go back to franklin to take her friend home, that's wrong thing #3, because 1. she wasn't supposed to be in franklin, 2. she's not supposed to be around kayla when mom's gone, and 3. she's not supposed to drive kayla around everywhere. i told her to be back in an hour, they left at 10:00, well 11 comes and goes, 12 comes and goes, finally at 1 AM, stephanie, allie, and michelle stroll into the house, allie is pissed because michelle was the only one that wanted to stay in franklin till 1 in the morning, and it was because kayla asked her to. that's (BIG) wrong thing #4. stephanie spent the night, she was never given permission to stay over, and michelle knew it was only supposed to be her, me, and allie. that's wrong thing #5.

    saturday: michelle leaves to go to stephanies house with allie, which they were allowed to do, the spend saturday night there, (her house is in franklin), and were out around the town all night, that's wrong thing #6, they were never supposed to go out. michelle doesn't return home until 6:00 pm on sunday night, she was supposed to be back at 4, not as bad, but none the less, wrong thing #7

    this morning i told my mom.. i explained to my mom that i cannot control her, and i do not feel comfortable being left in charge of her anymore, she doesn't listen to me at all, and knows that she can walk all over me

    was i right to tell my mom? at first i wasn't going to.. but when she didn't come home until 1 in the morning on friday, that really pissed me off. i explained to her how disrespectful it was for her to not listen to me at all, and i didn't appreciate being used and ignored when i was telling her what to do, considering i was left in charge. i also told her that i wouldn't guarantee that i would not tell mom, and she still proceeded to do all this stuff wrong over the weekend

    *sigh* :uhhuh:
     
  2. Dutchman

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    17 years old is a little old to still be telling her what to do in my opinion. It's one thing to demand no orgies take place at the house while Mom is away but quite another to tell a 17 year old where they can and can not go.

    That aside, 17 is definitely too old to be put under the charge of a 19 year old. Your mother can not reasonably expect you to control someone of that age, particularly when you aren't much older yourself.

    In this case, I don't think you did anything wrong in telling your mother given that you needed to explain why you didn't want to be left in charge anymore. However, I would say that in the future, when your mom leaves instructions for your sister and you aren't expected to enforce them reporting any infractions would just be peevish.

    my 2 cents
    Dutch
     
  3. nnndave

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    lol

    When I was 17 and my sister was 19 my paretns wouldn't even try... They would just throw up thier arms and say screw it, we aren't going to see him for 3 days.

    I don't see why there would be a problem as long as she wasn't getting into trouble or making bad decisions...
     
  4. Sergeant

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    I would have told. Simply because you are in charge and thusly responsible for what goes on. Obviously if she refuses to listen to you, your mom needs to know you just didn't let things go to hell. She needs to know your sister does what she wants, when she wants and, in the future, you don't want to be put in that situation again.

    I would have done the same thing.
     
  5. Yaboosh

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    Dutch, they most certainly can be told where to go and not go, as long as the parents have a say in their child's life, i.e. the child still lives with them and is financially supported by them. Once the child supports themselves, that is when they become truly free. There is no age that you become free from parental governance, merely a time when the parents either allow it or you are out of their control.
     
  6. ZeppelinAngel

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    i kind of agree, she is almost grown up, but my mother doesn't trust her at all, because this isn't the first time she's done something like this, she's done nothing to earn my mothers trust, and she still acts very immature very often, so i dont blame my mother for being so strict with her, my mother never treated me like this at her age, but my sister and i act much differently
     
  7. Ash Housewares

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    well if your authority isn't recognized then reporting is what you have to do, your sister had forced your hand towards narcery
     
  8. Dutchman

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    Then your mother needs to accept that she will behave this way or not go away overnight.

    Boosh thats all I'm getting at, to expect a 17 year old to behave exactly as you tell them, particularly with a track record saying otherwise is simply unrealistic. Of course the parent has a say, and if she was that concerned she needed to, how to put this....not go to the beach overnight.

    At 17 any parent has to accept that they have lost a certain amount of control unless they are prepared to be there supervising 24/7.

    You can tell a 17 year old what to do, but anyone who expects them to listen explicitly and do exactly as they are told is being ridiculously naive. What do you mean by allow it? Are you going to throw them out of the house for visiting a friend in another town? Did she star in a porno while there or something?

    My way or the highway over trivial issues and infractions is a really bad approach.

    Dutch
     
  9. TurdFergusen

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    You shouldn't have ratted her out. Siblings are supposed to be parters in crime. When our parents went out of town, my brother (5 years older), sister (1 year older), and I would throw parties. My brother would refuse to be responsible for me and my sister, so anything that went down shared equal blame. We'd all work together to clean or hide any evidence.

    You should have told your sister to call up her friends from Franklin, and told their lazy asses to come up to your pad, and invite some of your friends for a nice social gathering.

    And Dutch is right. Your moms shouldn't have expected you to have any real control over her, and she should have expcted your sister to disobey her while gone.
     
  10. eddy

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    I am going to have to agree with Dutch on this, I myself am 17, and half the things my parents tell me to do, i most of the time ignore them. This obviously does not include things like cleaning your room. I just tend to disregard their suggestions, advice or even orders when they tell me how I should act and what i can and cannot do.

    Now they realize they can't stop me and we try to reach a truce of sorts on things. If I do the things they wish, they look the other way for some of my activities.
     
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    If the kid is living under the parents roof, the parents rules go. I don't care if she's 3 or 30. You did the right thing.
     
  12. Zkin

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    ***** slap her silly, and then run out in a hissy (?) fit.

    Yes, u did the right thing.,
     
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    None of what your sister did seems that terrible, I think you should have just given her a spanking.
     
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    And video taped it. Oh and throw on of those girls from that Franklin town in too. No smiling.
     
  15. dodomac

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    Nothing happened, you did the right thing. Next time, however, you have to blackmail your sister to keep your mouth shut for a considerable sum. Either that or be chill with it, it's not cool to rat out someone.
     
  16. lala

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    dont u have a bf zepplin? move out to him so u dont have to put up with that ****
     
  17. dodomac

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    EEEEEEEEEEEEOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWWW. *Slaps own face and walks away slowly while throwing bananas at lala*
     
  18. ZeppelinAngel

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    nope.. i'm single right now -_-
     
  19. MixedVariety

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    Zep, your mother knew full well what might happen and left you in charge anyway. You weren't responsible for the outcome. Your mother should have either not gone, or taken your sister with her.
    You did right by telling your Mom about her. Your sister totally dissed you and selfishly didn't care what her actions brought on your shoulders. She used you and abused you, and regardless of whether you feel bad about 'ratting' on her, she deserved it.
    So as the old saying goes, she reaped what she sowed. Made her bed and she can sleep in it. Somepin like that.
     
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    I don't see how her sister "dissed" her. If I were expected to babysit my 17 year old brother, i'd let him do what he wanted, as long as he didn't affect me, and as long as he used good judgement. It's not like she trashed the house or anything. There's no reason to rat on each other, parents are the enemy, destroy them.
     

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