skeletorisback
Banned
My floormates, friends, and sports
I go to college now (duh), and I have a big... problem I guess. I absolutely have no interest in sports. Normally not a big deal but at my dorm, my whole floor (well, much of the campus) is obsessed with sports, especially seeing as my school is a major basketball powerhouse (and the football team is doing okay). Problem is, it's hard to make more friends (than the ones I have back home, which is 30 minutes to the east). If I hang out exclusively with geeks (who don't like sports) and such, it'll be hard to get girls. Another thing: at my dorm your best friends are supposed to be your floormates; the corollary to this is that it is damn near impossible to really talk to other floors because they all ask "why aren't you on your floor?", give you creepy looks, and blow you off. But when all of them like sports a bit too much (and I don't), making friends with them is damn near impossible. The question is: how do I handle this situation?
Also, my roommate doesn't like sports (well, maybe likes a little bit) either, but I don't have anything in common with him either. His interests lie almost exclusively with church, playing his bass, and listening to (ska? jam band?) music like mxpx, less than jake, etc. He hangs out almost exclusively with one or two people on the floor with the exact same tastes in music. He also doesn't get any tang (or have many other friends here at all, but then again, he's from far away). The thing that helps him at least be friendly with others is his somewhat quiet, soft, sober personality (against me, the weird bombastic outgoing drunk).
Okay, so I do have at least one thing in common with at least half the floor: I drink.
Another trivial thing about my floor: we're all in this group called a living-learning community (pretty common at a lot of colleges). Now, you might think that we are a bunch of study-together hardworking types. WRONG. We're the biggest slackers at our dorm (which is the party dorm already, which says something). Our varsity drinking team is undefeated (or, not...?). We don't study together that much (a few of us do our calculus together, but I never get involved and probably should, if it's important at all). In short, all the good things promised in this thing never happened, and I'm probably more screwed because of it (thank you parents for forcing me in this worthless waste of time).
I probably should just walk to hang out in the other dorms, but all of the other dorms are a thirty minute walk up a giant hill away (no driving there, the parking cops are nazis with "wrong zone"). This brings up a good point: is it okay to just walk to other dorms/floors and just start talking to people (this late in the year), or is that considered creepy (especially considering that it's not the start of the year anymore)?
And probably the biggest question of this thread: are the first impressions mostly permanent or can I make friends with my floormates or whatever (as in "second-chance")?
I go to college now (duh), and I have a big... problem I guess. I absolutely have no interest in sports. Normally not a big deal but at my dorm, my whole floor (well, much of the campus) is obsessed with sports, especially seeing as my school is a major basketball powerhouse (and the football team is doing okay). Problem is, it's hard to make more friends (than the ones I have back home, which is 30 minutes to the east). If I hang out exclusively with geeks (who don't like sports) and such, it'll be hard to get girls. Another thing: at my dorm your best friends are supposed to be your floormates; the corollary to this is that it is damn near impossible to really talk to other floors because they all ask "why aren't you on your floor?", give you creepy looks, and blow you off. But when all of them like sports a bit too much (and I don't), making friends with them is damn near impossible. The question is: how do I handle this situation?
Also, my roommate doesn't like sports (well, maybe likes a little bit) either, but I don't have anything in common with him either. His interests lie almost exclusively with church, playing his bass, and listening to (ska? jam band?) music like mxpx, less than jake, etc. He hangs out almost exclusively with one or two people on the floor with the exact same tastes in music. He also doesn't get any tang (or have many other friends here at all, but then again, he's from far away). The thing that helps him at least be friendly with others is his somewhat quiet, soft, sober personality (against me, the weird bombastic outgoing drunk).
Okay, so I do have at least one thing in common with at least half the floor: I drink.
Another trivial thing about my floor: we're all in this group called a living-learning community (pretty common at a lot of colleges). Now, you might think that we are a bunch of study-together hardworking types. WRONG. We're the biggest slackers at our dorm (which is the party dorm already, which says something). Our varsity drinking team is undefeated (or, not...?). We don't study together that much (a few of us do our calculus together, but I never get involved and probably should, if it's important at all). In short, all the good things promised in this thing never happened, and I'm probably more screwed because of it (thank you parents for forcing me in this worthless waste of time).
I probably should just walk to hang out in the other dorms, but all of the other dorms are a thirty minute walk up a giant hill away (no driving there, the parking cops are nazis with "wrong zone"). This brings up a good point: is it okay to just walk to other dorms/floors and just start talking to people (this late in the year), or is that considered creepy (especially considering that it's not the start of the year anymore)?
And probably the biggest question of this thread: are the first impressions mostly permanent or can I make friends with my floormates or whatever (as in "second-chance")?
