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Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by Anakha1, Mar 18, 2004.

  1. Anakha1

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    Mini-humans.

    What's the allure of having them? Most, if not all, of the children I see strike me as whining, obnoxious little urchins, something on par with my current avatar, and yet people are constantly telling me that they were the defining and most wonderful point of their lives.

    I'm only 21 and so I obviously have no will or want to spawn any time soon, but I really can't see me ever wanting to give up my freedom and go through what I see as complete hell (parenthood). I want a commitment like I want the bubonic plague. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not critisizing any parents here, but I really can't understand why people like to have them. God knows I'd be an atrocious father which is part of the reason I don't want them, the other part being that I'm so not ready for them. My dad always said that if I wanted to get rich I should never have kids (my dad has a sense of humour like mine, which is to say he's evil) and I can see the wisdom in this. Maybe I'm just selfish; a purely noble trait, as far as I'm concerned, when it doesn't negatively affect others. I can't see that children will give me a sense of completeness or productivity but rather only drag me down into a pit of profound incarceration, if I may be so melodramatic.

    So can any parent here explain what's so great about having ankle-biters? Maybe I've just been corrupted by the life-sucking vampires in Huggies on the public transportation system, but I just don't understand it.
     
  2. Ash Housewares

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    do you have younger siblings? younger cousins? anyone younger that ever looked up to you? some people like having people look up to them, hey, how bout a kid.
     
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    Older sister. Younger cousins I barely ever saw. And I wasn't particularly fond of them hanging around me and looking up to me, so no, I never had that feeling.
     
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    Wow the title of this thread had me thinking it was going to bad fast. . .


    Hmm well it might be some thing that can't ever be described, but is fully understood by those who have experienced it. . .like giving birth.
     
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    I don't have any children yet, but I certainly wish for them in the future. The reason is pretty simple: I love children, and just the idea of having my own fills me up with pride already. When I die at the age of 60, or 80, or 40 for that matter, who knows, and I die without ever having a child, I would feel as if I missed something in my life.

    To each his own, Anakha, but I have the feeling you are just focusing a bit too much on the negative side of this?
     
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    Something tells me I won't be able to experience that part. :xtongue:
     
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    That's because I honestly don't see much of a positive side, or at least not one that outweighs the negative. I feel that children would make my life not so fun at all and I'm wondering what the parents here can explain how they feel about it and why.
     
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    yea, so no worries, and always have a convenient excuse to get out of the house

    as your peer (in age) I am pretty much in the same spot as you, no where near ready to have kids, but I know I want to at some point, theres just something to it I can't quite describe, but I'm from a very big family and I would miss not having atleast a small one of my own to share everything with
     
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    I think it is simply a matter of ... taste. Maybe a bit too simplified, but it comes down to this. Some people like eggs, some people don't. Some people like to rollerscate, some people don't.

    Not that I want to compare children to eggs and rollerscates, but still... Yeah, anyway, let's see what the parents have to say about this! :p
     
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    Maybe that's it. My family is close but very spread out. The five members of my immediate family (my father, mother, sister, step-father and myself live in five different cities. So I'm used to having a family at a distance. That's fine with me, but it means I've never had that really close bondage that comes with a large family and don't feel that I need family members close by to make myself whole. I'm very independent, if that makes any difference.

    But one of the major reasons I've always told myself is that I don't want to have to wait 18 years while the kid grows up before I can enjoy my time and be alone for extended periods of time with my wife, should I ever have one.
     
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    yea, makes sense, my family is close, there were probably 50 of us in the same city, we saw eachother all the time, and parenthood is a lengthy commitment, that is what worries me the most about it, the first 18 years and then who knows how many after that, I am certainly intimidated by it at the moment
     
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    There is one other thing.

    I'm rather frightened that I might do a bad job. I don't understand children. They're little and fragile and I'm not either of those things. I don't want to be responsible for another human life's every aspect. I'm paid to protect the members of the military and the public. I know how to do that. I'm trained for it. There's no training for parenthood. And using a big gun to get my way is frowned upon.

    I don't want to turn out like one of those godawful parents I'm always bitching about.
     
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    that's one thing I'm not afraid of

    of all the things I'm afraid of that involve responsiblity for other people or for other people's lives, parenthood doesn't frighten me, atleast in terms of doing a bad job raising a kid, I worry more about being the first time parent at the emergency room because baby has a cough :grrr:
     
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    Damn I thought this was going to be a thread about making fun of midgits, and posting funny pictures of them. So disappointed.
     
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    Gotta have someone to get down into those cramped spaces in the cole mines.
     
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    C - O - A - L

    Sheesh! :lol:
     
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    I think youve made a wise desicion Anakah. I do not share the same thoughts, but I support your desicion fully.
     
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    Grow up - not old. That's the key. I dig in the dirt and get all muddy right alongside my son. There's nothing wrong with taking a saucer sled and sliding down a sand dune in the rain. Kids don't really care what you do, just as long as you do it with them.

    Little yes. Fragile, not exactly. My son does all sorts of things that if I did them (like running full speed into a wall - don't ask) would make me walk funny for a day or two. He bounced off the wall and just took off again. Kids are a lot tougher than you're bgiving them credit for.

    Again not true. Your paid to protect people. That's what you do for kids. You keep them safe. You're an expert in discipline. Kids need discipline. You're familiar with enforcing your will on people. Kids need that. They need to know who's boss. You don't need a big gun to get your way. Simply telling them they WILL do something and back it up with some simple discipline does the trick.

    And I'm not talking about just physical discipline. Loss of beloved toys works wonders. My son is obsessed with Hotwheels. Taking them away is the worst thing I can do to him. And he knows that if he misbehaves, they can disappear. They have. More than just a few times too :rant:

    That's easy to do. You THINK before you act. You pay attention to the mistakes other people make and you don't make them. Screw learning the hard way for yourself, that's for others to do.

    And most important of anything, you are the dad first, friend second. That's the biggest mistake so many of the baby boomer parents made.

    All that said, I have absolutely no idea how to take care of a daughter. Good thing that's not in the forseeable future. A daughter would make my receeding hairline more like a rocket than a turtle.
     
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    Hairline is thankfully not an issue for me, however, as my natural brown is now a very small minority on my head, I attribute this to a thirtysomething female, who is the mother of one of my grandaughters. A long legged, slim and attractive daughter is a two-sided coin. Not reccommended for the faint of heart dads.

    Wouldn't trade her for anything, though.

    Very perceptive, Smeg.
     
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    Good points, Freehead. I'm still frightened of small children, though. Kinda like elephants are frightened of mice. Or horses of snakes. I can't help but think that I'd be an atrocious father no matter how hard I try and that feeling of failure is something that I loathe.

    You didn't answer my original questions, though. :) What's so special about having mini-Smegs? And running face first into a wall sounds like something you'd do. :teeth:

    Don't even get me started on having daughters. It would only be a matter of time until she hits puberty, starts dating and then I ****ING LOSE IT!!!! Some fathers start collecting funds for their child's college education when they're born... I start collecting 12-guage buckshot for the inevitable day I find out someone's been doodling my daughter. Even if she's 25.
     

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