Is there a fine line... between real love and superficial love? I've known this girl since we were kids... without really knowing her. I mean, I've known who she is and seen her every week since I was... what, 5 or 6 maybe? And yet I don't think I ever said a word to her until a year ago or so when I realized.. that she's absolutely gorgeous. Which, I'm afraid, was a big factor in getting me to start talking to her. So by now we're kind of mild friends, and soon I realize that she's pretty much as badly scarred from previous relationships as me. And right when I'm about ready to get up the nerve and ask her out, I happen to browse this web page she has and find out she's just started dating someone else. Now, normally, I'm the kind of guy who likes to date people who I know pretty well and have developed a really good relationship with already, and breakups aren't much of a problem for me since they've all been mutual agreements, nothing particularly painful or destructive to the original relationship. But this girl... I don't really even know her aside from a few casual conversations and I'm absolutely captivated. I'm worried that maybe the only reason why I've been interested in her is because she's beautiful. I nearly had a relationship with another girl but.. ended up not taking that opportunity because of this girl. And now that I know she's taken... I can't stop thinking about her, and how dumb I was to have waited this long. Is the fact that, unlike every other relationship I've had, I'm interested in this girl without really knowing her, evidence that I've become a superficial jackass? I kind of figured that the fact that I'm dwelling on it so much and losing sleep over it is evidence otherwise. But I guess we all like to think that we're not superficial, right? And now I don't know if I should just completely give up on her and try to find someone else. But finding valuable relationships seems to be a problem for me. Trying to take her away from the other guy would be wrong, right? Especially considering that he knows her... extremely well? And I don't think their relationship is ending anytime soon. Heck, getting her off the reboud feels wrong anyways. I guess I'm just looking for advice and opinions on relationships in general. I've read some of the replied to the "Do you date friends" thread but I guess it didn't really answer my questions. I mean... I think I'm asking whether it's possible to build a good relationship with someone who I know very little about. Or whether or not I stand a chance with this girl who, as far as I know, only recognizes me as the guy she sees every week. Any constructive advice would be appreciated. I couldn't go to friends because most of them would ridicule me for even mentioning the concept of "love." And the only other person with whom I could have discussed this... well, she may have a thing for me and I'm trying to avoid that as much as possible. Well, sorry about the long post then. Please help me out... I can't sleep. I just stare at my ceiling for hours on end.