dating age differences

TheOgreMan

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dating age differences

What do you feel is an appropriate age difference while dating? Does it differ for guys and gals? How old is too old? Here are two scenarios to answer first, then elaborate on the subject as you feel necessary:

1. A guy dating a girl 10-12 years older.
2. A girl dating a guy 10-12 years older.

Discuss.

Edit: Monetary and security are not factors; the dating is based solely on compatability and general "like" of the person.
 

corndog420

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the dating is based solely on compatability and general "like" of the person
I think you said it all right there. It's cliche, but "age is only a number." I pretty much believe that if people are compatible, the ages don't matter.

I'm 27 and my last long term girlfriend was nine years older than me. We went out for four years, and age was never a factor, IMO. The oldest woman I've dated is 11 years older than I. Her age wasn't a factor, so much, but I thought her 17 year old daughter was too hot to continue our relationship without being an arse. :innocent:
 
corndog420 said:
I think you said it all right there. It's cliche, but "age is only a number." I pretty much believe that if people are compatible, the ages don't matter.

I'm 27 and my last long term girlfriend was nine years older than me. We went out for four years, and age was never a factor, IMO. The oldest woman I've dated is 11 years older than I. Her age wasn't a factor, so much, but I thought her 17 year old daughter was too hot to continue our relationship without being an arse. :innocent:
That would throw a wrench in the works.


I have dated a girl 3 months older than me.....then again I have only dated 3 girls and only one lasted more than a year.
 

Oberammergau

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No, No, No, they are wrong. Generally its like this the age of the person (for example 40) divided by two and then you add 7.
So if you were 40 (40 / 2 = 20 + 7 = 27) anyone under 27 is too young for you.
 

Steve_Kow

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I wouldn't mind getting to know a woman in her mid to late 30's. Maybe even early 40's if she takes care of herself.
 

Anakha1

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Steve_Kow said:
I wouldn't mind getting to know a woman in her mid to late 30's. Maybe even early 40's if she takes care of herself.
Not me. Twice my age is a bit much. Late 20s for me at most.
 

CaptJoe213

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heh aint nuttin wrong with the older women, I guess it all depends on who you are, and who they are. For example, my wife is 38, and I am 25. For us, it works out, though I do get tired of going to the store and having people hassel ME for cradlerobbing! I look 40, she looks 22 lol

Course it's a personal thing, to each their own

*dances out of thread singing "Older women make beautiful lovers"*
 

Steve_Kow

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Thing is--maybe I wouldn't date a woman that age--but they certainly have an edge in experience over most of the girls I've dated. It could be a fun fling, as long as her husband doesn't find out.

When I was 18 I came this (*holds two fingers close together*) close to hooking up with a 33 year old woman at work, she wanted it, I wanted it, but I just couldn't close the deal. I think she found it somewhat exciting to seduce a younger man, but got scared away when I gave in without much of a fight. ah well, there's always next time.
 

TheOgreMan

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I never really gave too much thought to being with an older woman. It doesn't seem to bother me. I think it might cross her mind but she does as little as me about it. Even though she seemed really interested when a mutual friend suggested that I take her out for Valentine's (shes 31 and I'm 19, but damn is she a great person).
 

Croup

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Go date anyone you want, dammit. As long as you both agree to it, I give you all the power in the world. If you're 50 and you're dating a 22 year old, good for both of you. I'm not going to judge.
 

Anakha1

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My second wife is hitting the fourth grade about now. By the time I'm 50 everything will be ready. :teeth:
 

Pierrot le Fou

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My_Immortal6 said:
Who is your first wife?
He means that he'll get a young wife in the semi-near future, divorce her when she gets old, and replace her with the girl who's now in the 4th grade, because she will be young. And so the pattern continues.

I think that age is of huge consequence under certain circumstances. Specifically if a guy wants to have a family. I could not marry a woman who was over 35 methinks, because it seriously impedes my ability to have little pierrot's runnin' around and mucking up this forum. A guy, on the other hand, can pop out the chilluns 'til the day he dies of a viagra-induced heart-attack fornication-a-thon.
 

Ti-Ben

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I say as long as both parties are 18-20+ years of age, I'm cool with difference people have. Being 18, I'd only go for 22-24 yo gals, for now.
 

Wolv

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Its definitely a matter of compatibility. I've dated from 6 yrs older, to my age, to 11 yrs younger. The older you get, the less an age gap makes a difference due to maturity level.

I'm currently engaged to a female 10 yrs younger :) She acts more mature than me usually!
 

Fallen_62

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my current gf and i are about 3 months apart... the oldest i have dated was a year older and the youngest was a year younger...

i think it all depends on whether u love the person or not... age should be a factor, when ur older (face it, a HS senior going out with an middle schooler just isnt right)

CaptJoe213 said:
For example, my wife is 38, and I am 25. For us, it works out, though I do get tired of going to the store and having people hassel ME for cradlerobbing! I look 40, she looks 22 lol
i'd prolly be the one to do that too :p
 

Arokthis

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My rule of thumb: Don't date someone if there's more than a 20% difference in age. Note that someone at the lowest end of your range is actually out of bounds because you are outside their upper limt.
Example: If you're 25, at first glance your "acceptable" age range is 20-30. (25*.8 & 25*1.2) However, the 20-year-olds have an upper limit of 24. How do you know your actual lower limit? Divide your age by 1.2 and you're all set.
 

Sergeant

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I would generally consider it a good idea to date people of your own age range. However, if you both connect emotionally, have common interests, goals and there is an attraction, I don't think the age really matters so long as you both know the age difference is there and choose to overlook it.

Personally, at 26, I probably wouldn't date or marry someone 10 years my senior or older. Mostly due to biological changes that will be coming to her soon and the fact that I want children and so on. If that wasn't a factor, so long as we hit it off and there's "chemistry" I don't think age is all that important.
 

Satrina

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Croup said:
Go date anyone you want, dammit. As long as you both agree to it, I give you all the power in the world. If you're 50 and you're dating a 22 year old, good for both of you. I'm not going to judge.
What he said :D

My Hubby is 5 years younger than me, but acts craploads more mature most times ;). And I've dated guys 10 years younger than me. Heck, when I was single me and my sis would go out and 18~24 was my age range, and she got all the old farts :lol: This was when I was 29 :p

Hubby turns 30 next month, we keep joking about how I'll have to trade him in for a younger model then, coz my Ex husband was 30 when we split (but he's an arse)
 

AgentOrange

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TheOgreMan said:
What do you feel is an appropriate age difference while dating? Does it differ for guys and gals? How old is too old? Here are two scenarios to answer first, then elaborate on the subject as you feel necessary:

1. A guy dating a girl 10-12 years older.
2. A girl dating a guy 10-12 years older.

Discuss.

Edit: Monetary and security are not factors; the dating is based solely on compatability and general "like" of the person.

I've lost more then one girlfriend to another guy, and 100% of the time he's in the mid 23-26 range (the girls being 17, I'm 17 also so don't get me wrong) I think this is insanely stupid and creepy. If a guy is that old and he finds that he HAS to date women much, much younger and much, much (probably more mature) then him, he has some type of mental block in his head (because he obviously can't relate to women his own age).
The sick sons of bitches!
 
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