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Quietus

Quietus

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MixedVariety said:
Oh my goodness, you're kidding. Well then she certainly deserves dumpage. Falling asleep, especially at your own house, ranks right up there with cheating and abuse.
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No, but it IS rude to invite someone over and then fall asleep while they're there. Except if you're both falling asleep, or if it's an extremely serious relationship.

Bortaz, being a cranky old git isn't helpful in this particular thread. :jig:



 
Bortaz

Bortaz

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It's right there for all to see, Quietus. Being a "good listener" isn't helpful, either, when she's trying to justify messing around with her best friends boyfriend.
 
buttershug

buttershug

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hacchantal said:
Well yes I did have some idea, but I was a little confused. I think he does have a thing for me, or something?!, .
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He's a guy, you're a hottie, so yes he does.
Chris Rock says guys don't have platonic girl friends, only women we havn't copulated with YET.
Or words to that effect.

nebula said:
and highschool will never end....... evEr
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A local collumnist says if she wrote a relationship book it would be called "Women are from grade 9, men are from grade 7."



 
Quietus

Quietus

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Bortaz said:
It's right there for all to see, Quietus. Being a "good listener" isn't helpful, either, when she's trying to justify messing around with her best friends boyfriend.
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Who said good listener? Hell, who suggested Chantal was interested in messing around with this guy? She was giving background, and yeah, possibly providing an excuse there - that doesn't necessarily mean that she's showing interest. Could just be that he's a friend, so she doesn't want to think poorly of him.

Just a possibility - neither of us are mind readers, to my knowledge, so I suppose there's only one person who can confirm one way or the other.



 
hacchantal

hacchantal

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Quietus said:
That's precisely what he isn't doing - he isn't coming right out and saying anything. He IS, however, apparently testing the waters to determine what his chances would be if he WERE 'playing the field'. At least, that's what I get from that conversation.

Also, ignore Dondrei's rampant cynicism, not all men are raging hormonal beasts with their brains below their waists. Some? Sure. Not all.

@Darkflight - Interesting though your end of this conversation is, I'm not sure that the direction it's taking is appropriate given the context of this thread. If you want to start a new thread to debate the pros, cons, and causes of men and hidden messages/agendas, feel free to start a new thread and I'll throw that ball back and forth with you.

::Edit:: As for trust issues, Chantal, I wouldn't say this guy has them. His girlfriend? Possibly, from the limited view we're given of her. But based on what we know of the guy, and his interest in testing the waters, it might not be unfounded trust issues. On the other hand, it could be that she has trust issues, and as a result, he's driven to find someone who doesn't have those issues. Either way, it's still lowbrow to be testing the waters while still involved with someone, even if he isn't sure of how that relationship is going.
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Yeah, I won't worry too much about what Donrei says :p

But yeah, he's definitely playing the field, lol and thanks for clearing that up for me.

High school has ended for me, this year... so I guess it's ended literally but the little issues haven't.

RevenantsKnight said:
A few things first: I'm not exactly an expert at this sort of thing, and please don't answer any of the hypotheticals I throw out, because I don't want to know.

Since it seems like your friend might have been a bit stressed by his relationship at that point, I guess it's possible that he was just feeling depressed or lost and was looking for an ego/confidence boost by asking. Certainly, this isn't exactly the best way for him to go about doing that, particularly when he starts getting secretive about it, but it could be due to a (relatively) innocent social "oops" than actually meaning anything.

The other explanations that have been offered seem possible to me, too, though this is what came to mind early on for me...not sure if I'd place any one over the other with this relatively limited information. You'd have a better idea on this matter, I'm sure, and maybe this "sounds like him" (or maybe not. :tongue: ) Anyway, hope that was useful somehow.
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It is possible that he was in a stressful situation at the time. hehe I am not an expert at these things either so no worries there.

Bortaz said:
And now we see the young damsel beginning to rationalize cheating with her friends boyfriend by villainizing the "bad" girlfriend.
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I in fact was not cheating on my friends boyfriend. I have a boyfriend of my own, thanks and I don't find anything wrong with going out for coffee or something once in a while. He asked Steph if it was okay, and she okay'd it. We are all a good group of friends, we hang out all the time. (sorry about defensiveness)

Quietus said:
No, but it IS rude to invite someone over and then fall asleep while they're there. Except if you're both falling asleep, or if it's an extremely serious relationship.

Bortaz, being a cranky old git isn't helpful in this particular thread. :jig:
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Yeah, that's my point... not really polite to do that... so it leaves me with her boyfriend, which doesn't look good :undecided: What am I supposed to do? Say, "yeah you guys have to leave my house now."

Bortaz said:
It's right there for all to see, Quietus. Being a "good listener" isn't helpful, either, when she's trying to justify messing around with her best friends boyfriend.
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No I'm trying to justify him messing around with me and me being stupid not to realize it.

Quietus said:
Who said good listener? Hell, who suggested Chantal was interested in messing around with this guy? She was giving background, and yeah, possibly providing an excuse there - that doesn't necessarily mean that she's showing interest. Could just be that he's a friend, so she doesn't want to think poorly of him.

Just a possibility - neither of us are mind readers, to my knowledge, so I suppose there's only one person who can confirm one way or the other.
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Thank you. I am not interested in messing around with this guy. I'm interested in being a good friend and going out for a coffee once in a while. (used the coffee as an example) Of course with his girlfriend included... god you guys are nuts! lol. And no there's no excuse, all I was wondering was why he asked me those questions... and now I figured it out and will stop this madness that's happening.



 
AeroJonesy

AeroJonesy

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"What do you think of me?" = "If I didn't have a girlfriend, would you let me get into your pants?"

It may also mean "my sex life sucks - give me a good fantasy."
 
Dondrei

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Quietus said:
Also, ignore Dondrei's rampant cynicism, not all men are raging hormonal beasts with their brains below their waists. Some? Sure. Not all.
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It's true, some of them have the ability to conceal it for finite periods of time.



 
Quietus

Quietus

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I think I can take this thread as proof that I understand women better than any man on these boards. :azn:

Just kidding, of course. Gotta get lucky SOMETIMES. Mixed, even if Chantal's friend DOES see it as proof that she's comfortable with Chantal and her boyfriend hanging around, it's still kinda rude to say "Hey, let's hang out!" then start copping some Z's.

Dondrei, you should be in Guinness for your incredible level of cynicism. It's really rather depressing that anyone could believe that.
 
bg1256

bg1256

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Dondrei said:
His girlfriend, your boyfriend, your relationship with each other, the current circumstances, none of it matters. He is thinking about tail, he may even deny it to himself but he is.
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It doesn't necessarily mean he wants in your pants.. sounds like he's definitely interested, though. Some guys -- they might be rare --- but some guys may actually be interested in you for you.



 
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