Can you stay with someone who's rarely physically intimate?

Dirty_Zulu

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Can you stay with someone who's rarely physically intimate?

I saw these people on Oprah that have sex like once in a year and even a lady that does it like once every 3 year just to procreate.

If you're dating/married to a hottie but he/she adamantly says she only do that sort of thing once a year, would you stay with her? You can hold hands and a light kiss on the cheek at the most.
 

Raistlin Majere

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Dirty_Zulu said:
I saw these people on Oprah that have sex like once in a year and even a lady that does it like once every 3 year just to procreate.

If you're dating/married to a hottie but he/she adamantly says she only do that sort of thing once a year, would you stay with her? You can hold hands and a light kiss on the cheek at the most.
Its more than I'm getting now.
 

Necrolestes

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Does tonsil hockey count as a contact sport?

Speaking solely for myself, that would be enough but then again, I am a bit schizoid. Speaking for others, that's not enough intimacy to establish a true, deep, loving relationship (you don't need sex to be intimate but you need more physical contact than that...there are some people, however, that don't need physical contact to be intimate; they instead are emotionally intimate which, though more fulfilling than a physical relationship, is sadly not enough for many people that have a Y chromosome).

Women enjoy emotional intimacy more than physical intimacy (this is not to say that they don't like getting physical, just so long as their emotional needs are met first). Men, on the other hand, prefer physical intimacy to emotional intimacy (which is why many women tend to call men jerks). Men need to be physically close to a woman to be intimate so for most men, sex once a year wouldn't be enough.
 

AeroJonesy

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If my wife (when I get one) never wanted to hug me or embrace me or show any sort of physical emotion, I think I would miss the feeling of her really caring for me. I was raised to be accustomed to being physical with those you love, like with hugs and stuff. So I would want a relationship with someone I love to be like that.
 

Yaboosh

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My girlfriend has been out of town 4 days and I am getting antsy. A year? I dont think so.
 
This is the idea behind going out with someone for a good, long time before committing to something permanent like marriage. You should be able to tell if you're in for that kind of life, or not, by then.
 

PublicEnemy

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Dirty_Zulu said:
I saw these people on Oprah that have sex like once in a year and even a lady that does it like once every 3 year just to procreate.

If you're dating/married to a hottie but he/she adamantly says she only do that sort of thing once a year, would you stay with her? You can hold hands and a light kiss on the cheek at the most.
If she 's very rich , then YES.
If she's poor and uninteresting , then NO.
 

KillJoyBob

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I smell some zealous religious subtext in this "sex just for procreation" idea. Let's say these kinds of people are not in my dating pool.
 

Croup

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Not a chance in hell.

There's a level of intimacy that can be had without having sex (not that I'm for that kind of thinking) and your criteria doesn't even account for that. I couldn't live like that.
 

Ev_

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Part of a relationship is having someone you can be physically close to. That doesn't make you sexually obsessed or any crap like that, it's just a human need.

So my answer: no way.
 

Dirty_Zulu

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I probably would if I have to. I'd hate for all men to be labeled as horndogs.

Look at Christopher Reeve and his wife. His wife just stood by him with disregard for her need.

We should all be like her.
 

Omikron8

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No

And for those who say "sex just for procreation reasons" i have some colorful remarks towards that as well
 

dantose

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If she "just didn't feel like it" probably not. Hell, i would explode.

If it was the result of some injury or illness after we got married, yeah, I'd stand by her.

Husabands and wives should be there for each other sexually. I'm not saying that anybody can mandate whenever and where ever they choose, but both should make every effort to keep the other properly sexed.
 

LunarSolaris

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Not all men are horndogs to be honest, but sexuality is an integral part of both male and female. Some don't need it... but to mix someone who doesn't with someone who does isn't a fair match-up.
 
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