another relationship thread, serious help only please ifra

[TheOgreMan]

Re: another relationship thread, serious help only please

Maybe.

I'm doing a lot better today. I've gotten a lot off of my chest and I've had a lot of time to think. I'm sad, yes, but I'm a little more hopeful of the future (in general, not for this relationship).

I actually just wrote her a huge, long letter describing my thoughts, asking her questions, ranting, being angry. I let it all out. But then I realized that it will probably just make her angry, make her resent me, and I knew that it wasn't good for me to send it to her. So I sent it to my friend's mom instead. She will read it, she will see my feelings, and she will console me. "The girl who broke my heart" will never see it because she doesn't need to and I don't need her to. It was good just to be able to vent everything and see more clearly that things just happened. I'll walk away from this a better person and, eventually, will move on. But like I said a rebound isn't for me. It isn't my personality and is really just way too soon.

I will have to admit that there will be a s***storm eventually. One bad thing that I didn't really mention is that we live together so when she gets back...well, I guess I'll deal with that then. I hope by then we are stable enough to just deal with it like friends and resolve that situation peacefully.

 

[Sound]

Re: another relationship thread, serious help only please

One word my friend: Pride. Don't do things you would be ashamed of later in your life. I'll give you an example. Once a girl broke up with me, it hurt as hell but I just said bye, turned around and went away. I was completely broken for few months but noone knew it, I didn't cry in public etc. Other girl is a different story. I tried to "fight" for her, was talking to many people about it and guess what, I feel so stupid when I remember what I've done Really behaved like an idiot. So once again this important word: Pride. You'll be alright

 

[Garbad_the_Weak]

Re: another relationship thread, serious help only please

I would suggest you take all of her stuff and sent it to her parents. Keeping it at your place will just create an awkward confrontation, or keep reminding you of her.

P.S. And seriously, don't knock the rebound girl. It doesn't have to be cheap or immoral by your standards, it just needs to be a girl to take your mind off the breakup and have fun with without the emotional burden.

 

[TheOgreMan]

Re: another relationship thread, serious help only please

One word my friend: Pride. Don't do things you would be ashamed of later in your life. I'll give you an example. Once a girl broke up with me, it hurt as hell but I just said bye, turned around and went away. I was completely broken for few months but noone knew it, I didn't cry in public etc. Other girl is a different story. I tried to "fight" for her, was talking to many people about it and guess what, I feel so stupid when I remember what I've done Really behaved like an idiot. So once again this important word: Pride. You'll be alright

I was going to fight, and if she wanted me to I still would, but that isn't the case. It isn't worth just me fighting alone. I want to, but I'm not going to. I'm not ashamed of my feelings; they are perfectly natural. She was the biggest part of my life for a long time; we put a lot into each other. It's not something I'm going to forget any time soon. But I will take what I've learned and just keep improving on it. Yeah, I'll be fine. But for now I think I can be miserable for a little while.

I'm not really "dissing" the rebound girl; it just isn't me. That isn't who I am or how I operate. I put too much of myself into things and get attached easily.

As for the apartment thing...I've thought about that. One problem, though, is that most of the furniture is hers. Washer, dryer, tables, drawers, pots...it's hers. I'd have a bed, a couch, and some pictures if she took all her stuff now. No, our lease isn't for much longer. We have separate rooms, and she won't begrudge me using her stuff for now. We will work things out and, most likely, she will go back and live with her parents until the lease is up.

 

[stillman]

Re: another relationship thread, serious help only please

I'm sure you won't take my post very seriously, but I believe the whole thing was an affair she had. Telling you that she loves you and writting a big letter for you is, imo, just her way of trying to kill the guilt. Anyway, I hope you read the letter and look for hints that the whole letter is covering up for an affair or trying to justify one.