I think she meant both of YOU go though counseling for the kid. While sending the kid to counseling wont hurt, I think she has a good point about the parents attending as well.
Accused of rape
- Thread starter Sir EvilFreeSmeg
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Thelioness
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The therapist will request the parents interaction as needed.
zodiac66
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Well, how about instead of being a petty, hurt couple, you both sit down and think of his needs. Who he goes with? I can't imagine the thought of not having my daughter around all the time. I also can't imagine being a petty, vinctiful person that I would allow my feelings for the ex to get in the way of my child's well being.
The ex and I are planning on taking the kids to a few things this holiday season. We are still a "family". We will be one forever.
Both of you need to think of that. You both will be tied for the rest of your lives together, if you like it or not.
The ex and I are planning on taking the kids to a few things this holiday season. We are still a "family". We will be one forever.
Both of you need to think of that. You both will be tied for the rest of your lives together, if you like it or not.
Unfortunately, Zodi, it's not that easy. Sure, you can perhaps convince Smeg here of the things you are saying. But there's still a spouse to deal with. A spouse who is accusing him of rape and trying to have him killed. No matter how logical and sane Smeg is to the situation, I doubt it will have any impact on the mother if she continues acting the way she is.
MassiveSin
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Rape is a very serious offense.
So she is running around saying to whom?
If it’s only to you, then nothing. If she’s going to people you know then its defamation and slander if you can provide contradictory evidence and fact.
I would worry about how far she thought about this coarse of action and how far is she "really out to get you". Perhaps she planned it out when you 2 were having consensual sex. Using the DNA samples as her evidence.
If you haven't legally separated yet and have access to view what she has purchased for the last few weeks (credit card statements, receipts, etc) look to see if she went to buy pregnancy test, rape kits, condoms, etc.
If you had consensual sex and used condom(s) check them to see if they leak (if it’s not too late) or the others for pin holes.
I'd suggest to keep a journal everyday until your separation is complete to use as a reference to time. (Or longer if you can make it a habit & also very useful for managing stress)
I'd also get a restraining order on her. (Depending if you felt she had venom behind her threat)
Last suggestion, if you’re ending your marriage to someone that you obviously cared for at some point in your relationship, end it and don't seek/peruse "benefits". To most, the act of sex could be interpreted for a signal of love instead of a physical release do to convenience of her proximity and lack effort to find someone else.
If you want benefits with her then its give and take as with all marrages. Don't get divorced and work through your issues with her while respecting her needs and wants with your own.
My 2 cents
FinalFantasyFreak
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Errr wait a second...smeg's ex tried to KILL him? Holy crap, is that true? :shocked:
MixedVariety
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Smeg lives in a half-fantasy world filled with Gestapo agents, mad Arabs, border-busting demons and assorted other evils. A homicidal ex-wife would be right at home with them.
Sir EvilFreeSmeg
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What makes you think my hatred of her is my driving motive? She's mentally unstable. It's something meds can help with but she refuses to take them. That's willfully keeping herself a detriment to his safety and well being. She also is living in a house that is filthy, the dogs urinate on the couch he sleeps on, he has nightmares when he has to sleep near his pervert uncle, nobody ever plays with him, he has no interaction with anybody his age except at school, etc. There is no routine, they feed him junk food, his uncle likes to kick him hard enough to hurt, etc. Who wants to hear of a 5 year old kid dealing with that?
I'm fighting to get him away from that. For all my flaws my home is nothing like that. Even my flaws are being worked on in a dedicated manner. You know of what I speak. I'm getting that taken care of.
He doesn't want you dead. That puts a damper on wanting to do anything with her.
Or until she lands in the looney bin or has a stroke or heart attack. At 5'-7" and about 380 lbs (she porked out since she left) and always highly stressed, it's only a matter of time before something pops.
How true that is. You can't reason with somebody that refuses to. If there was a chance at us working things out this would already be done and over with. When she filed for divorce she claimed irreconcilable differences. I countered with infidelity. That pissed her off because I called her on her bull****. She rarely gets told no and having this one thrown in her face set her off.toader said:
FFF, she didn't make the effort. I have had one attempt to take me out already as well as a two month period where I was getting accosted at an unbelievable rate. Once every two days was the average. Even in the ****tiest places of the LA ghetto it's not that often. It also kept happening close to my usual haunts. There's a reason why I posted those videos a few weeks ago. One never knows.
Heh, paranoia has it's place. It's kept me alive so far. Kept my old man and grandpa alive too. Call it family tradition, having people pissed at us.MV said:
WildBerry
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Sir EvilFreeSmeg
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After being passed down for 3 generations that I know of, it's been elevated to an art form.
zodiac66
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Thelioness
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I am not suprised that your ex wants you dead. (No I don't mean that as harsh as it sounds) It would be easier for her if you were.
If the living situation is that bad over there, then call child protective services on her. Have other people call child protective services on her. If the uncle is kicking him, then call the police on him. At the very least, document it with his pediatrician.
If the living situation is that bad over there, then call child protective services on her. Have other people call child protective services on her. If the uncle is kicking him, then call the police on him. At the very least, document it with his pediatrician.
FinalFantasyFreak
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Jesus she tried to take you out once? You think there will be more attempts? Ok I mean that's just sick...
Zodiac, I do not know much of smeg or his problems, but I hope you will forgive me when I say that there's no place for "settling things in a civil manner" when your ex tries to KILL you. You know, like kill, as in she wants smeg to die, as in stop breathing, as in stopping one's heart from beating, AKA not there anymore, 6 feet under, you know...
As I said, I am not that knowledgeable on smeg's situation, but damn it, when your ex tries to kill you, how the hell can one think about giving the child to such a person. If you ask me, smeg should keep his son away from that woman, she's not stable.
Right, I guess I was getting more at the point that just because he is not perfect does not excuse her from accusing him of rape or trying to have him killed.
Sure, we all have our flaws. That doesn't mean they all are equal though.
Picking your nose and eating it (yummy) isn't the same as attempted murder, even though both are flaws.
Does that help make what I was getting at more clear?
zodiac66
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Yes, Toader it does, but if you were in chat on many occasions, I think you may have a different opinion.
They are both fighting like a couple toddlers over a toy.
I don't believe that either of them is a bad parent. I think if they both sat down and decided that they could get along for the sake of their child..all would be good.
They are both fighting like a couple toddlers over a toy.
I don't believe that either of them is a bad parent. I think if they both sat down and decided that they could get along for the sake of their child..all would be good.
Sir EvilFreeSmeg
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I've already talked to the cops. They aren't going to do a damned thing. Figures, they're useless for any real police work. They're good at writing tickets and being trigger happy but that's about it. You have to remember that cops are there to generate revenue for the city and to go after the big crimes. Little things like this aren't either of them. I had one of the cops go over there and talk to him about it but that's all they're willing to do.
CPS has been contacted. They are as useless as the cops. I talked to my attorney today and she has some methods that are supposed to be more effective. I hope so. I'm worried about him going over there healthy and coming back to me sick every damned week.
Zodi, that's long since past. I can't afford it in any way, not now.