If she expresses no open-mindedness. Meaning, if she were to say at any point in the conversation, "I could never be with someone who was [Jewish/black/poor/younger]. They're so [enter stereotypical comment]." If she likes to talk about how much she gets wasted, gets numbers, strips at parties, etc. If she never laughs. If she spells out any of these words in common conversation: lol, rofl, brb, ttyl.
Why the curiosity? Has someone got a first date on which they're trying not to make a bad impression?
Yeah, I'm going out with a guy on Friday, my friend and her fiancee are coming too, does that still count?
Anyway, I've been single for a year and a half. Don't take me wrong, a relationship isn't the only thing I'm after, but I don't want to screw up the possibility of one by making an ass out of myself on the first date
I would suggest just being yourself. If you have a strong personality, it's going to shine through at some point with this guy. You might as well let him know who you are early on.
That doesn't mean overdo it, though. I think most people can tell when someone is trying really hard to impress someone. And it's awkward when someone does this. Instead, try to keep a little intrigue. Don't talk about yourself. Consider yourself as an advent calender(this metaphor should be awesome. Stay with me, i'm coming up with it as I speak). Let him go through the effort to check out one of those doors and find a hidden treasure behind, give a little backstory(Joseph and Mary couldn't find a vacancy in any inn...), then leave it up to him to ask the follow up question and open up another door.
I know you used to play in a band...that's great. Make him do the work. When he asks what you like to do, just say play music. Let him ask about it further, then you can get into the time your drummer sneezed mid-song and passed out when he hit his head on a symble. You're worth the effort to find out about...own it, and it will come off really well.
Many years ago, when I was single and in college, a very attractive young lady and her female companion were playing Foosball at a local tavern. Being a typical lewd and lascivious male at that time, I attempted to flirt with her while playing the game. My overtures, however, were quickly rebuked.
Leaving the table, I attempted to drown my sorrows with several cold drafts.
To my amazement, she suddenly showed up at my booth batting her eyelashes and purring softly. After some idle chatting, she leaned over, playfully grabbed my thigh, and whispered that all she wanted in life was a good man who would marry her and provide her with domestic appliances and a beautiful home.
"Dang", I thought. She is nothing but a gold-digger!
I quickly excused myself and left the bar.
< I gotta lay off these margaritas ...I can't believe I still remembered that story>
It depends on the guy.
Im a sports nut myself, so i dont want my girlfriend to not know what a full count is, or how many points a touchdown is (luckily she knows both of those, and then some).
Im not saying dont be yourself, or try to tailor yourself to his likes and desires, but if you have a general idea of who he is, then you can act accordingly to assure you have an enjoyable time.
I agree with the statement about the ttyl, brb, lol, and rofl, that stuff makes me want to puke. Dont be that chick.
If you're after a real relationship with a nice guy, don't be easy. I mean it. No sex on the first, second, and third date, and even after that you just give him a little piece at a time. Make him feel like you're valuable, not just another slut, no offense intended.
Sure, guys love girls that are easy, and they also will almost never go on from there and get serious. It's great if sex is all you're after, but it's a relationship killer.
If you don't like basketball, don't go to his house to watch basketball, refuse to talk to anyone, check the clock every ten minutes, leave in the middle of the game, and then call him to complain about how much basketball sucks and how terrible he is for making you watch it even though you asked if you could come over and watch with him.